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" You owe me!" The invisible chains that bind us to our narcissistic families
Navigating the intricate web of family dynamics, especially within narcissistic environments, can feel like tiptoeing through a...
May 9, 20242 min read
Navigating Estrangement and a Dying Parent: A Compassionate Journey
When confronted with a toxic parent's illness, we're thrust into a moral crossroads.
Apr 20, 20243 min read
5 reasons family members don't tell you they're estranging
Family estrangement is very difficult to accept. And can be even harder to come to terms with when we don't know the reason for the...
Mar 30, 20245 min read
Guilt and family estrangement
Estranging from family is complex, difficult, and emotional. One of the overriding emotions we often deal with is the feeling of guilt....
Mar 9, 20244 min read
When standing up for ourselves means burning bridges
Standing up for ourselves within a difficult family can be incredibly challenging. Family ties are often deeply rooted and emotionally...
Feb 17, 20242 min read
Living with a narcissistic mother
A relationship with a narcissistic person is always complex- when that narcissist is your mother, it become incredibly confusing....
Feb 3, 20245 min read
4 reasons why an estranged child may choose never to reconcile with their parent
Families are complicated things! As with any relationships between human beings, who have messy emotions and complicated ways of...
Jan 20, 20247 min read
10 control tactics a narcissist will use
One of the traits of a narcissistic person is that they use various control tactics for their own personal gain. Although these tactics...
Jan 5, 20247 min read
Family estrangement and funerals. To go or not to go?
Are you grappling with the heartache and confusion of family estrangement? Even if you were the one who decided to make the break, the...
Oct 21, 20233 min read
The Betrayal of Family Estrangement
Estrangement is a loaded word. So many emotions can come attached to it, and if we are in it, betrayal is often at the heart of it. In my...
Oct 4, 20232 min read
What can you do if your adult child cuts you off?
I get a lot of questions through YouTube @thescapegoatclub from parents asking variations of the same question: my adult child has cut me...
Jun 30, 20234 min read
The lack of closure with family estrangement
I never thought I would end up estranged from my family. That was something that happened to other people, not me, not us. But when I did...
Jun 12, 20233 min read
Underhand ways a narcissist will try to win an argument
Winning an argument against a narcissist, as any scapegoat will know, is a futile endeavor. They are masters at manipulation. We think we...
Jun 5, 20233 min read
Reasons we struggle to leave our narcissistic families
Deciding on whether to stay in or leave our MUFOOs (messed-up-families-of-origin) can be really complicated. Firstly, we have to see the...
May 29, 20234 min read
7 ways a covert narcissistic parent will try to undermine our happiness
Covert narcissists are threatened by other people's positivity, happiness or successes. Because they are so fragile and unhappy, they are...
May 22, 20234 min read
How narcissistic parents manipulate their children using guilt
Feeling guilty is one of a Scapegoat child's default setting. Alongside shame, fear, and confusion, it's a pretty steady state of being...
May 16, 20233 min read
Playing the Scapegoat in a Narcissistic family's story
When we are Scapegoats in a toxic family system, we have one role. That role is to be the person who takes the blame for anything that...
May 9, 20231 min read
Supercharge your recovery from narcissistic abuse.... with gratitude
Yeah, I know, you've heard it before and seen all the cheesy posts on social media. But there is a reason why gratitude is touted by a...
May 5, 20232 min read
What is a Scapegoat, anyway?
The Scapegoat Club, SGC, came about as I was working through my recovery from an abusive, toxic, highly narcissistic family system....
May 3, 20232 min read
Life after narcissistic families
Welcome friends, fellow scapegoats! Thank you for being here. I am excited to finally be launching the official SGC website! The...
May 2, 20231 min read
Aren’t You Healed Yet? | Healing After Family Estrangement
Healing, for me, isn’t about erasing pain or rewriting history. It’s about carrying it with kindness. I lost contact with my entire nuclear family. It wasn’t gradual, it wasn’t mutual, and it wasn’t over something small. Just because time has passed doesn’t mean it’s all tidied up. Grief doesn’t have an expiry date.
16 hours ago3 min read
When Grandparents Cross The Line
Many grandparents are wise, playful, and loving. But sometimes, the dynamic can go very wrong, especially when the relationship between parent and grandparent is already breaking down. In these cases, grandparents may bypass their adult children entirely and focus solely on the grandchildren. This makes grandkids the new battleground, and can create new tension and resentment with the parents.
Aug 303 min read
Five Lessons I’ve Learned From Family Estrangement
Five years in, I can honestly say: estrangement didn’t just make me “okay.” It made me better than I could have imagined.
It cracked my world open. Without the constant twisting and confusion, I can think clearly. I can breathe. I can trust myself.
Aug 233 min read
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