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Cutting off family contact is a complex decision. Although we may decide we need to break communication with our families, it can also feel very difficult when we get silence in return. When our decision is met with no response, we can feel betrayed, as if the relationship was never important. This can be a confusing mix of emotions. This video speaks to this complicated and seemingly contradictory experience. _____________________________________________________________________________________________ Thank you for watching. My name is Chess. I'm a psychotherapist, coach, counsellor and survivor of a toxic, abusive family dynamic. I have experienced both estranging from and being estranged (alienated) from family members. My journey through understanding the sad truth behind my family's facade and standing up for myself against lies, blackmail, and illegal activity, was the hardest thing I have ever done. It took an immense toll on my health, finances, relationships and sometimes my sanity. But I survived, and now better than I ever was. I created this channel to be a support for others who are navigating the difficulties of challenging families. I am neither pro- nor anti- estrangement. I believe it is an essential tool for those who have exhausted all other options and their wellbeing is at risk by staying close to people who can't support them. If you are dealing with a toxic relationship, please look after yourself and get professional help if you are able. If you feel you would benefit from extra support around this topic, or any of my other videos, I offer individual coaching. Drop me a line through www.thescapegoatclub.com/coaching to find out more! Please drop me a line below to tell me what you think, what your experiences are and if there is anything you’d like me to cover. I can’t do this without your support. I hope you like the video and subscribe to the channel if you enjoy the content. Please comment or email me through my website if you have a suggestion for a video. Much love, Chess xxx ************************************************* This is a personal account of my experiences. I am not diagnosing anybody in my family as narcissistic. If you are in danger of physical abuse & harm, from others or yourself, please contact your local emergency services immediately. ************************************************** DISCLAIMER: The information contained within the YouTube channel 'The Scapegoat Club' is not a substitute for professional advice such as a doctor, psychologist, psychiatrist, or other therapist. The information provided by the YouTube channel 'The Scapegoat Club' does not constitute legal or professional advice nor is it intended to be. Only a trained medical professional can diagnose psychological or medical conditions.

This video is a reflection on the last visit I made to see my family- 8 years before estranging. I reflect on some of the dynamics and how they led up to the final events and cut off. ___________________________________________________________________________________________ Thank you for watching. My name is Chess. I'm a psychotherapist, coach, counsellor and survivor of a toxic, abusive family dynamic. I have experienced both estranging from and being estranged (alienated) from family members. My journey through understanding the sad truth behind my family's facade and standing up for myself against lies, blackmail, and illegal activity, was the hardest thing I have ever done. It took an immense toll on my health, finances, relationships and sometimes my sanity. But I survived, and now better than I ever was. I created this channel to be a support for others who are navigating the difficulties of challenging families. I am neither pro- nor anti-estrangement. I am 100% for healthy relationships. I believe estrangement is an essential tool for those who have exhausted all other options and their wellbeing is at risk by staying close to people who can't support them. Thank you for watching. If you are dealing with a toxic relationship, please look after yourself and get professional help if you are able. If you feel you would benefit from extra support around this topic, or any of my other videos, I offer individual coaching. Drop me a line through www.thescapegoatclub.com/coaching to find out more! Please drop me a line below to tell me what you think, what your experiences are and if there is anything you’d like me to cover. I can’t do this without your support. I hope you like the video and subscribe to the channel if you enjoy the content. Please comment or email me through my website if you have a suggestion for a video. Much love, Chess xxx ************************************************* This is a personal account of my experiences. I am not diagnosing anybody in my family as narcissistic. If you are in danger of physical abuse & harm, from others or yourself, please contact your local emergency services immediately. ************************************************** DISCLAIMER: The information contained within the YouTube channel 'The Scapegoat Club' is not a substitute for professional advice such as a doctor, psychologist, psychiatrist, or other therapist. The information provided by the YouTube channel 'The Scapegoat Club' does not constitute legal or professional advice nor is it intended to be. Only a trained medical professional can diagnose psychological or medical conditions.

If you are in a narcissistic or abuse relationship it can be very difficult to understand when you are being abused. In this video I share a letter from my family which illustrates what emotional abuse looks like and why it is so hard to spot. If you are being abused in a close relationship, please reach out to a trusted source for support. Lots of love, Chess xxxx

#narcissism #scapegoat #toxicrelationships #abuserecovery #narcissisticparents #survivor #codependency #estrangement #family #parents #siblings #narcissisticfamily #narcissisticfamily #narcissist Thank you so much for watching. If you are dealing with a toxic relationship, please look after yourself and get professional help if you are able. Please drop me a line below to tell me what you think, what your experiences are and if there is anything you’d like me to cover. I can’t do this without your support. Please like and subscribe if you enjoy the content. And if you can make a financial contribution towards making the videos, no matter how small, please check out www.patreon.com/thescapegoatclub. Much love, Chess xxx ************************************************* This is a personal account of my experiences. I do not know that anybody in my family is narcissistic. If you are in danger of physical abuse & harm, from others or yourself, please contact your local emergency services immediately. ************************************************** DISCLAIMER: The information contained within the YouTube channel 'The Scapegoat Club' is not a substitute for professional advice such as a doctor, psychologist, psychiatrist, or other therapist. The information provided by the YouTube channel 'The Scapegoat Club' does not constitute legal or professional advice nor is it intended to be. Only a trained medical professional can diagnose psychological or medical conditions.

When we are considering estranging from family, or we have been estranged from a family member, the idea that it remains unresolved can be very challenging. Navigating terminal estrangement- when a person dies before we reconnect- can be extremely difficult. In this video I share my thoughts on the topic, from the perspective of an adult child who has chosen estrangement as the only option after lifelong abusive family relationships. I am sure there are no easy answers. Equally, I think that when we are faced with two wrong answers (and no right one) with reflection, it is possible to find some element of peace and acceptance. I believe everyone will find their own path, and if/when we make a 'wrong' decision, we will know and can act to make amends. It is my hope that by sharing my thoughts it will help others navigate the painful and soul-searching decisions around estranging from family. By careful consideration we can also be prepared for more difficulties around end-of-life situations. Whatever life circumstances bring you to this video, I hope the content is helpful to you. Please take care of yourself, and extend grace and kindness to whomever you can in this situation. _________________________________________________________________________________________ Thank you so much for watching. If you are dealing with a toxic relationship, please look after yourself and get professional help if you are able. Please drop me a line below to tell me what you think, what your experiences are and if there is anything you’d like me to cover. I can’t do this without your support. Please like and subscribe if you enjoy the content. And if you can make a financial contribution towards making the videos, no matter how small, please check out www.patreon.com/thescapegoatclub. Much love, Chess xxx ************************************************* This is a personal account of my experiences. I am not diagnosing anybody in my family as narcissistic. If you are in danger of physical abuse & harm, from others or yourself, please contact your local emergency services immediately. ************************************************** DISCLAIMER: The information contained within the YouTube channel 'The Scapegoat Club' is not a substitute for professional advice such as a doctor, psychologist, psychiatrist, or other therapist. The information provided by the YouTube channel 'The Scapegoat Club' does not constitute legal or professional advice nor is it intended to be. Only a trained medical professional can diagnose psychological or medical conditions.

I have seen some commonalities around estranged adults and their parents. I wanted to share these in this video to offer a perspective from the 'childs' side. I am not posting this to be antagonistic, assign blame, or infer things about any relationship I am not familiar with. I am posting it with the hope it may genuinely help you understand your own situation. Because understanding is the first step to healing. Please remember that all relationships are unique, and all are optional. If you are finding your health or wellness is suffering due to a relationship, please take this seriously and do what you need to do to look after yourself, first and foremost. Treating ourselves with love, kindness and care is the first step. Then we can treat others with the same. Sometimes we can love each other up close, sometimes it has to be from a distance. Chess xxx #narcissism #scapegoat #toxicrelationships #abuserecovery #narcissisticparents #survivor #codependency #estrangement #family #parents Like the video? Check out my latest blog post on this: https://www.thescapegoatclub.com/blog Thank you for watching. If you are dealing with a toxic relationship, please look after yourself and get professional help if you are able. Please drop me a line below to tell me what you think, what your experiences are and if there is anything you’d like me to cover. I can’t do this without your support. I hope you like the video and subscribe to the channel if you enjoy the content. And if you can make a financial contribution towards making the videos, no matter how small, please check out www.patreon.com/thescapegoatclub. Much love, Chess xxx ************************************************* This is a personal account of my experiences. I am not diagnosing anybody in my family as narcissistic. If you are in danger of physical abuse & harm, from others or yourself, please contact your local emergency services immediately. ************************************************** DISCLAIMER: The information contained within the YouTube channel 'The Scapegoat Club' is not a substitute for professional advice such as a doctor, psychologist, psychiatrist, or other therapist. The information provided by the YouTube channel 'The Scapegoat Club' does not constitute legal or professional advice nor is it intended to be. Only a trained medical professional can diagnose psychological or medical conditions.