THE SCAPEGOAT CLUB

What 'Going No Contact' in Family Estrangement Actually Means

If your child has decided to go no contact, it’s likely that there is a fundamental issue in the relationship.

Dec 29, 20245 min read

Do Discussions Of Soul Mate Parenting Cloud The Real Issues Of Estrangement?

We need space for children to be heard, not fake discussions excusing parents for not meeting unrealistic relationship expectations

Nov 23, 20243 min read

Understanding Forgiveness: A Journey Towards Healing

The concept of forgiveness can feel daunting. It can seem like yet another way to take on more responsibility for someone else's actions.

Sep 28, 20242 min read

Navigating Estrangement and a Dying Parent: A Compassionate Journey

When confronted with a toxic parent's illness, we're thrust into a moral crossroads.

Apr 20, 20243 min read

5 reasons family members don't tell you they're estranging

Family estrangement is very difficult to accept. And can be even harder to come to terms with when we don't know the reason for the...

Mar 30, 20245 min read

Guilt and family estrangement

Estranging from family is complex, difficult, and emotional. One of the overriding emotions we often deal with is the feeling of guilt....

Mar 9, 20244 min read

Living with a narcissistic mother

A relationship with a narcissistic person is always complex- when that narcissist is your mother, it become incredibly confusing....

Feb 3, 20245 min read

How narcissistic parents manipulate their children using guilt

Feeling guilty is one of a Scapegoat child's default setting. Alongside shame, fear, and confusion, it's a pretty steady state of being...

May 16, 20233 min read

Playing the Scapegoat in a Narcissistic family's story

When we are Scapegoats in a toxic family system, we have one role. That role is to be the person who takes the blame for anything that...

May 9, 20231 min read

Supercharge your recovery from narcissistic abuse.... with gratitude

Yeah, I know, you've heard it before and seen all the cheesy posts on social media. But there is a reason why gratitude is touted by a...

May 5, 20232 min read

What is a Scapegoat, anyway?

The Scapegoat Club, SGC, came about as I was working through my recovery from an abusive, toxic, highly narcissistic family system....

May 3, 20232 min read

Aren’t You Healed Yet? | Healing After Family Estrangement

Healing, for me, isn’t about erasing pain or rewriting history. It’s about carrying it with kindness. I lost contact with my entire nuclear family. It wasn’t gradual, it wasn’t mutual, and it wasn’t over something small. Just because time has passed doesn’t mean it’s all tidied up. Grief doesn’t have an expiry date.

1 day ago3 min read

Grandmother and granddaughter preparing jam

When Grandparents Cross The Line

Many grandparents are wise, playful, and loving. But sometimes, the dynamic can go very wrong, especially when the relationship between parent and grandparent is already breaking down. In these cases, grandparents may bypass their adult children entirely and focus solely on the grandchildren. This makes grandkids the new battleground, and can create new tension and resentment with the parents.

Aug 303 min read

Five Lessons I’ve Learned From Family Estrangement

Five years in, I can honestly say: estrangement didn’t just make me “okay.” It made me better than I could have imagined. It cracked my world open. Without the constant twisting and confusion, I can think clearly. I can breathe. I can trust myself.

Aug 233 min read