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Do Discussions Of Soul Mate Parenting Cloud The Real Issues Of Estrangement?
We need space for children to be heard, not fake discussions
excusing parents for not meeting unrealistic relationship expectations
Nov 23, 20243 min read


How narcissistic parents manipulate their children using guilt
Feeling guilty is one of a Scapegoat child's default setting. Alongside shame, fear, and confusion, it's a pretty steady state of being...
May 16, 20233 min read


Playing the Scapegoat in a Narcissistic family's story
When we are Scapegoats in a toxic family system, we have one role. That role is to be the person who takes the blame for anything that...
May 9, 20231 min read


When Social Media Complicates Estrangement
Social media constantly parades glossy, curated families in front of us.
On the other side, parents or relatives can read emptiness into your silence — no tag, no post, no update — and interpret it as erasure. Everyone ends up hurting.
But remember: platforms reward harmony and visibility, not boundaries, privacy, or emotional maturity. Stepping back is often growth, even if it looks like withdrawal.
Dec 20, 20254 min read


Three Big Ways Narcissistic Parents Misunderstand Trust
Ongoing trust in a relationship is not automatic.
Yes, children are born dependent. Out of necessity, they have no choice but to trust their caregivers. But that provisional, survival-based trust is not the same as earned trust. It’s not permanent.
And when that trust is repeatedly betrayed—through neglect, manipulation, dismissal, or harm—a child may not recognize it at the time. Kids overlook things. They blame themselves.
Dec 9, 20253 min read


Silent Estrangements: The Distance We Don't See
If estrangement includes both a lack of closeness and a lack of contact, then many parents don’t even notice the emotional withdrawal. Children learn early to show the family what they want, not who they truly are.
So when the child finally walks away:
“It came out of nowhere!” says the parent.
But the estrangement didn’t start that day. It started years earlier, in the silences, in the performances, and in the emotional disconnection.
Nov 29, 20253 min read
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