Scapegoat Club Meetings
Healing Through Connection is the aim of The Scapegoat Club.
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We can feel incredibly isolated when we experience difficulties with our families. It can feel confusing, shameful, isolating, and scary. Club Meetings are here to support those of us with similar experiences feel more connected to others.
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Meetings are available to all paid Club Members via secure online meeting space. Members are able to post questions that Chess will answer directly. In addition, members will be able to share their thoughts and comments. Meetings will be recorded, so if you can't join in real time you can catch up later... or you can watch again and chat with other members later.
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Stay tuned to the website and YouTube updates for how to join the next live meeting!
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I hope to see you there!
Chess xx
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FAQs about Meetings
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Why are there so many FAQs on the meetings?
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Because it's imperative that this is a safe place for everyone. Due to the fact that we have more people interacting, with different experiences, it's important to have clear expectations that everyone adheres to. ​
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Do I have to pay to go to a Scapegoat Club meeting?
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Yes. The public YouTube videos are available for free, to anyone who wants to watch and comment. In order to create a more private space, and allow Chess more time to address specific questions, Club Meetings have been made available for paid members. ​
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What happens in these closed meetings?
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The online, video Meetings last from 60-90 minutes, depending on the number of members and the amount of questions being asked. Chess will be the only one speaking and on camera, with the aim to cover as much as possible up to a 90 minute limit. Members will have the opportunity to submit questions beforehand, and post comments in the chat as the Meeting progresses. Depending on how busy the session is, Chess will try to address things as they come up. The Meetings will be recorded and available online to paid members only- to view again afterwards, or for those who are unable to join live.
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I like the idea but I don't want to be recorded or on camera.
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Each member gets to choose whether they turn their video camera on for the meeting. Members are encouraged to consider their comfort levels and only participate at the level they feel ready for. Members microphones will be muted, unless Chess is addressing a specific question, the member asking wants to speak and it feels helpful to other members to have a dialogue.
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I want to chat directly to Chess about my personal situation. Is this ok?
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Yes and no. The meetings are a space to share general questions about our individual situations. In this way it's fine to use non-specific details to give background and context to your circumstances. Questions submitted ahead of time will be given priority, and they need to be kept short and with no identifying details. (By the way, when we get stuck, it can be really helpful to briefly write down what the problem is.... this way we can often get more clarity and sometimes even answer the question ourselves!).
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However, the meetings are not mini-individual coaching sessions. Chess will typically keep to typed chat, to ensure safety, confidentiality and allow time for lots of questions from different members. ​
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I am so angry at my family I just want to rant. Is this what the meetings are for?
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You know they're not! All emotions are valid, but we also need to respect that throwing them around is not helpful. Chess's top priority is to keep a neutral, supportive space, and we can say 'I'm angry', 'I'm so livid I want to scream'. But it's not a forum to bitch, swear, trauma dump, call names, label with political views or other generalizations, or just generally parent-bash. We've often left families that do this all the time- we want to and can do better.
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